I
know what it is to be in need,
And
I know what it is to have plenty.
I
have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation,
Whether
well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.
~Philippians 4:12
My mom and Ma (grandma) were not as fortunate, and died
never to know the freedom of spiritual recovery or that their defeat in the
battle to lose weight was not their fault. My story compares two adjacent
worlds: food addiction and spiritual recovery. It is my hope that this book
helps you to recognize, deal with, and resolve compulsive eating—to heal from
the inside out. If my journey lifts you from the pure hell of obsessive eating,
I will have accomplished my goal. I write for my mom, I write for Ma, and I
write for you.
By 22 years of age my mother had
given birth to six children. When Mom was 17, my sister Christy was born,
followed by a set of twins eight months later, Michael and Michelle; one year
later another set of twins, Daniel and Debborah; and 19 months later (with a
miscarriage between us), I was born. My mother was knee-deep in diapers for
what must have seemed like an eternity while she was only a kid. I learned
early on to comfort myself with a bottle and food. Although I was a scrawny
child who was on iron drops for anemia, my dysfunctional eating behaviors were
already developed. I remember climbing up on the kitchen counter to retrieve
chocolate syrup and pouring it down my throat until I felt the sense of
"ahhhhhhhhhhh" that food addicts are so familiar with. I was barely
five. I hid in the dark coat closet and stole change from my parents’ coat
pockets to buy stashes of candy.
Once, I
was so desperate I stole my father's pouch of parking lot change—hundreds of
dollars—from the third drawer of the china cabinet and took it to Pennies to
buy candy. I was seven and the bag was awkward and heavy to carry. I dropped
the bag—coins flew all over and the store owner turned me in to my parents. It
was the first and only time my dad ever spanked me.
Does this ring true for you? How far back in your
childhood can you trace the start of your compulsive eating? If you have a history
of binge eating I can assure you memories of overeating are there—with a bit of digging you have
a story that might sounds similar to mine. Knowing where it began gives clues to how to quit addictive eating.